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Griff 08-08-2011 07:45 PM

I'm sorry about ur stone.

infinite monkey 08-08-2011 08:25 PM

Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself. :)

jimhelm 08-14-2011 10:44 PM

Taking the kids back to their moms place always bums my stone.

jimhelm 08-14-2011 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by infinite monkey (Post 749211)
Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself. :)

It was I'll advised to be sure. I've simply prolonged the inevitable. I had plugged a hole I felt. Better idea to let the hole heal on it's own. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.

monster 08-14-2011 11:16 PM

Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

Aliantha 08-15-2011 12:43 AM

I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

xoxoxoBruce 08-15-2011 01:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 742199)
All depends what price is being offered :p

How about an automobile? :blush:
Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt (Post 749165)
"Don't deserve it" is sloppy shorthand for "you don't deserve it." But it's really not my place to weigh in on what you deserve and don't deserve. Poor choice of words. I'm sorry you're going through this though.

Nobody deserves that.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 750318)
I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

Or that either. :(

jimhelm 08-15-2011 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by monster (Post 750312)
Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

I know that's right.

I'm gonna armor myself in solitude for a while, I think. take care of the things I have been postponing, and clean up the mess I've made of my life in general. I don't need help distracting myself.



be a solitary man....

Griff 08-15-2011 03:25 PM

Cash nails it.

infinite monkey 08-15-2011 03:28 PM

It'll get better, jim. I was solitary for a long time, wouldn't date or hook-up or anything. When I did "jump back in" so to speak I apparently wasn't ready because I made a couple really bad choices.

I'm still solitary location-wise though there is someone in my life I care about who lives too far away. Maybe that's one way I can be very very careful still.

I wouldn't recommend my style of "easing back in" because I think people do need other people. We just have to be very careful if we're getting what we need or what we think we need, and it takes time to sort out "you."

:comfort:

jimhelm 08-15-2011 03:41 PM

Thanks L

srsly.

I have a couple good buddies that I can rap with if I need it. And then there's youse guise. and my mom still thinks I'm cool... so, I've got that going for me.

kerosene 08-15-2011 05:15 PM

Which is nice.

(I just can't help it. I thought I could resist in type form, but apparently I cannot.)

Jim, I am sorry you are going through this. That is probably something I said to you before, but I say it again, because I mean it again.

Solitary time is good for you. I wish I had done that before. I am fortunate that my relationship has survived the turmoil that goes with that period right after a major breakup with someone else. Everyone says you should wait and heal, and I didn't do that. I recommend it, though. I think you will thank yourself later and be much much stronger for it.

Aliantha 08-15-2011 05:22 PM

It was five years after I broke up with my older boys father before I met Dazza. It was good having that time to sort myself out, but in saying that, there were certainly a number of dalliances to spice up the journey though. Solitude might be good for healing, but the human touch has some pretty magical qualities also.

jimhelm 08-15-2011 05:35 PM

It felt very good to have some affection after the crash ending of my marriage. I realized that even during my marriage I was not getting much of it. So, yeah.. pretty magical. I turned a blind eye to everything else, I think. I guess its a balance we need to find, like everything.

Aliantha 08-15-2011 05:38 PM

You can't bake a cake with only one ingredient. ;)


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