har.

mtp, you have much baggage. I know you have medical/medication issues right now, but ffs see someone about your current mental state. It ain't healthy.

All of her friends are also freshmen and asking the same questions. The insight is appreciated, thanks. But we don't need to decide until the end of the week, so I think I'll suggest she talks to the older members of the swim team at practice and see how they view it.

I wonder if it might be "more special" than regular homecomings becuase it's the school's first time with a senior/graduating class? Thoughts on that?

The school might throw more effort into it trying to drum up school spirit?
Then again, normally when schools try harder, they just go overboard and it becomes quite lame. Maybe she and her friends could start a homecoming tradition though, since its the school's first year and all. Each year, they dress up as something ridiculous (robots, aliens, Mongols, aborted fetuses) and streak across the football field at an opportune time (such as when the Queen and King are being crowned). Hopefully after they graduate, the lower classes will carry on the tradition. Then they will be legends among high schoolers.
Honestly though, y'all seem to be taking all of this pretty seriously, just seems strange to me. Its not that big of a deal. The only event in high school that REALLY matters, is the post-grad binge party. (I kid, I kid!)


FFs monnie, don't take my cussing so seriously. Its not really "baggage" that I hated most of high school. That is pretty normal.

@sarge, I am happily unAmerican then, since I hate both of those things and think they're overrated trash.

It's bound to be interesting on some level. I'd vote go, especially if the trade off is doing something else that can be done any other time.

Does she have something "better" to be doing?

Ha! I got it! Go to the homecoming dance in costume!

That is it! Decision made. Your kid and friends will go, and they will go in costume!

Gee. I feel like a FREAK. I liked high school. I liked dances. I went to Prom with a senior when I was a freshman. Oh heck, I went to homecoming with another senior when I was a freshman. I just remembered. He passed away years ago, in his 20s. Nice, funny guy.

Back then, us girls wore the fashion of the day: the plaid long skirts with boots and a sweater. We went to dinner beforehand, at a restaurant that was considered 'posh' but really wasn't.

One year me and two of my girlfriends didn't have dates, so we gussied up and went together. My mom thought that was really cool. Nowadays, I know it's the norm for groups of people to go.

I think she should go. It's a great memory, even if you don't have fun it will certainly give you something to bitch about years down the road. ;)

I think more people should lighten up during HS, and enjoy it. You know, don't pretend they're just too cool for school. Then they might not be so damn bitter years later. :rolleyes:

Hebe seems to be a well-rounded individual. Tell her I said to go and enjoy it! :)

Why not go?

This about all I know from Homecoming:

hehehe.

Apparently there's a parade too.

She's kinda nervous because it's all new and big and she doesn't really know anyone yet. it seems daft to have to decide before school even starts. I understand they want numbers and money early but still.....

So they are getting you to decide ahead of time by offering a discount? If she's not sure now, but ends up wanting to go later, is the additional cost the problem?

If she has friends that are going with her, then I'd say go for it.

right. money and availability. which seems a bit odd too -they say there's no guarantee of tickets later. But the price more than doubles really putting it in the unnecessary expenditure bracket. Shoestring budget time still. We already decided no yearbook -another one that's cheaper if you pay now -$50 instead of $75!

Wow. I don't think things were as expensive when I was in school, not even relatively speaking. Maybe my parents had a different view of that, though.

I hope she goes.

I went to Homecoming 3 of 4 years, I think...never had a date, but always went with a group of friends, and usually had fun. I do believe there was alcohol consumption involved in a couple of the years, but you did not hear that from me.

Never went to any of the football games, at least the Homecoming ones. Wasn't interested. But you know, if I had HS to do over again, I'd probably get more involved.

If her friends are undecided as well than I would suggest her and her friends make a group decision whether to go or not. To help that decision, try to see if her friends are the type that can have fun together no matter what everyone else is doing.

To get down to it, homecoming dances are purely social events and people usually go with dates, a group of friends, or some combination of friends and dates. In some schools, it is more date heavy, in other schools, it is more group of friends heavy. If her and her friends make a group decision to go and it is date heavy, and they can still have fun, then why not go. If they are more insecure, then it probably won't be a lot of fun, especially if they are insecure about not having boyfriends/dates. If her and her friends make a group decision not to go and later find out they would have fun, then they have three more chances...

thanks.

She should go with a whole Gaggle of friends ,
Safety in numbers
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