Long Story, but anon donor paid for food at beest's funeral thing.
1) I needed to do it.
they took that from me. I knew i wanted to do it. (the swim community offered and I was working up to accept graciously, ecause I know they need to do something to help them grieve, but it was hard....) ...now I know I needed to do it. My husband. My goodbye.
2) I think I know who it is and they have an agenda. A documented Indian Giver
I talked to three friends about it independently (online). And two came up with the same name and all agree.
The whole thing feels soiled now
I know I'm an ungrateful biatch who can't take an intended complement. But here I'm allowed to be. This is not a well meaning individual.