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Old 06-23-2004, 12:36 AM   #35
marichiko
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I've read thru all the posts. (sigh) Here's what I think, and believe me, I not only have been around the block; I've been around the entire damned back country road in places where you can only drive with a winch and 4wd drive in compound low. I got the t-shirt and used it to wipe up all the blood and threw it away. So...

Get out now. Every moment that you stay is an extra moment of self-inflicted pain. The man made you no promises and he is living up to them. If he wanted you for a real relationship, he'd have let you know long ago. If a man wants something, he goes after it; he doesn't leave it to chance. For example, if a man was walking down the street and saw a hundred dollar bill laying on the sidewalk, would he turn away from it and ask a passer by for 10 cents for the parking meter? Not hardly. You have to consider yourself to be just like that hundred dollar bill. A man who passes you by for chump change in a bar is not worth breaking your heart over.

This guy may indeed enjoy your friendship. He certainly enjoys getting to have you in bed along with this other girl, along with whomever he can pick up in a bar, along with who ever else. His actions show very plainly that he is not interested in exclusivity. This does not make him a "bad" guy, but it makes him the wrong guy for you if exclusivity is what you want.

What you get to do is to accept him for who he is and accept yourself for who you are. You can remain on in a dead end situation that only brings you pain, or you can pull the arrow out and go on with your life.

Get another place to live. Don't have ANY contact with this guy for at least 6 months, better still, a year. If at the end of that time, you feel that you can be his platonic friend and still wish to be, more power to you. But staying on as you are now and attempting some sort of friendship when what you really want is a relationship is a sure fire recipe for lots and lots of heartache. Hold your head up and exit stage right. You'll be glad you did, hard as it may seem now.
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