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Originally Posted by staceyv
[...]when it comes to marriage, I don't see the point in it if you're sharing your spouse. [...]
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Sex is healthy. Sex is fun. Sex with friends rocks. <i>Love</i> has nothing to do with it. Love as friends, yes. <i>Love</i> as I do my husband, no. Different thing entirely. (Shouldn't there be different words for love in all it's forms?)
I don't see it as "sharing" my husband. We go visit them to have fun. We play games, watch football, while away Sunday mornings, have sex, go shopping, dancing... we just don't tend to bother with worrying about who is with whom for which part.
But we are very married. If he left me I would fall to pieces. We have each other to hold when the world rocks on its axis, we rely on each other's strength when our own fails. I brought him through having a heart condition taken care of - which he would have ignored till it killed him, were he single. He is my rock, and keeps me from floating adrift when my impulses would have me make bad decisions.
Maybe it's because I was very promiscuous before I was married. Maybe it's because I'm a gypsy and hate to have too much pattern in my life... I don't know why it works, but we're much happier, have more sex as a couple, generally healthier and more satisfied with life than when we were 'just a married couple'.