What's really important is that it matters to
that kid.
I'm reminded of the story about the fella standing on the beach after a big storm. The beach is
covered with starfish, and with the sun rising and the tide falling, slow certain death awaits the starfish. So this fella is bending over, picking up a starfish, and chucking it back into the sea, again and again and again. There's another guy, he watches for a while, he sees that there's no way these starfish are going to be saved, and he walks up to the fella and asks:
"Why are you doing this? I doesn't matter what you do, thousands of these starfish are going to die."
The first guy pauses to listen, then returns to his task. He picks up another starfish and wings it back into the sea. He decides to answer the question and says:
"Because it mattered to that one."
Adopting a child from overseas, or a child that is, for some reason, a less desirable candidate for adoption, is in almost every circumstance, a Good Thing. Or adopting any child. There are exceptions, sometimes horrid, evil exceptions, (
no link), but they're far, far rarer that the other end of the spectrum where a family is enlarged by one (or more),
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Originally Posted by OnyxCougar
I don't understand why people are allowed to adopt outside the US. But that will just take me down a long road of isolationist thinking.
*sigh* Today's going to be a bad day. I can tell....
Originally posted by troubleshooter (in response to OC)
I don't have a proble with people having the right to do so, but it's stupid. People really need to learn how to look at problems that are closer to home before they worry about other people's problems.
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That's just wrong thinking. Your opinion, sure, whatever. There's a big difference between
talk on a college campus about "fixing the problems of those poor people" and
action in the form of welcoming a child into one's family. Big difference. Talk's cheap (especially around here), but
acting, doing this, I can't imagine the motivation for such a big lifelong, lifechanging event is about "fixing the problems of those poor people".
I see motivations like love for children, family dominating the decision making process. I am not an adoptee, or and adopter, so I can't say from first hand experience. But if I were to adopt, I mean, if we were to adopt a child, it would be because of our love for kids and each other and our family.
The truth of the statement that you can't save the world, or even a part closer to you than a part farther away is **not** sufficient reason to try to save a part you can.