Elf: I do believe we belong to the same social subset! I try to keep from being TOO explicit for the vanilla folks just starting out, but then again, watching their eyes widen is fun too
Safewords are good, but I usually use words like "Please Sir may I have another" to mean stop LOL
I don't top well by nature but I will if properly inspired. This usually happens only two or three times a year but is spectacular when it does!
Brian