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hot_pastrami · 03-07-2005, 05:06 PM

Your boyfriend's ex sounds like a bitch from Hell. It is rare that a person would consider themselves evil, yet people like your boyfriend's ex do seemingly evil things on a regular basis. The interesting thing is that most people who do such things feel completely justified in their actions. People tend to compromise their principles more readily than they realize when they believe it will result in "justice."

I figure that your boyfriend's ex must have such a delicate self-image that she can't admit wrongdoing without putting her self-image in jeapardy. To protect their self-image, such people unconsciously prop up flawed logic with true facts, selectively employed, thinking that they can nullify facts that disagree with their logic with those that support it. They become blind to reason on the matter.

This results in victim mentality, which produces exagerrated feelings of entitlement (to make up for perceived wrongs that have been done to them). If such a person is unhappy, the cycle accelerates, and any little thing can snowball into huge feelings of entitlement. That person may then sacrifice their principles and do nasty things, viewing them as necessary to achieve "justice." The farther down this road one goes, the more one is invested in it, and the more cemented the original flawed logic must become to protect their self-image.

I think this is why so many intelligent, reasonable people can do seeminlgy evil things, while similarly intelligent, reasonable people can sympathise with them. But that doesn't make it less evil.

It's a rare thing to find someone with the strength of character to admit a mistake, particularly with something important. People don't want to admit mistakes if it will also be admitting a fundamental character flaw. This constitutes a greater human flaw, I suppose.

Good luck to you, and keep us posted. Sorry for the windy writeup.

03-07-2005, 05:06 PM	#10
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	Your boyfriend's ex sounds like a bitch from Hell. It is rare that a person would consider themselves evil, yet people like your boyfriend's ex do seemingly evil things on a regular basis. The interesting thing is that most people who do such things feel completely justified in their actions. People tend to compromise their principles more readily than they realize when they believe it will result in "justice." I figure that your boyfriend's ex must have such a delicate self-image that she can't admit wrongdoing without putting her self-image in jeapardy. To protect their self-image, such people unconsciously prop up flawed logic with true facts, selectively employed, thinking that they can nullify facts that disagree with their logic with those that support it. They become blind to reason on the matter. This results in victim mentality, which produces exagerrated feelings of entitlement (to make up for perceived wrongs that have been done to them). If such a person is unhappy, the cycle accelerates, and any little thing can snowball into huge feelings of entitlement. That person may then sacrifice their principles and do nasty things, viewing them as necessary to achieve "justice." The farther down this road one goes, the more one is invested in it, and the more cemented the original flawed logic must become to protect their self-image. I think this is why so many intelligent, reasonable people can do seeminlgy evil things, while similarly intelligent, reasonable people can sympathise with them. But that doesn't make it less evil. It's a rare thing to find someone with the strength of character to admit a mistake, particularly with something important. People don't want to admit mistakes if it will also be admitting a fundamental character flaw. This constitutes a greater human flaw, I suppose. Good luck to you, and keep us posted. Sorry for the windy writeup. __________________ Hot Pastrami!