[OnyxCougar]

Because generally, younger women (18 - 30) don't want nice men to treat them like queens. They think they do, and they will tell you they do, but what they really want is to be treated like crap. (and don't flame me for this, ladies because you know deep down inside that it's true. generally speaking)

Then, in the late 20's, early 30's, they get tired of being treated like crap and start to realize what they really want in a man. *That's* when they want nice. They start to know what they like and dislike in men and relationships and what they are and are not willing to put up with.

One important note: a man who's never been married and is desperately seeking a woman can be sniffed out a mile away, and will turn most women off. "You're how old? And never been married? So what's wrong with you?"

You're damaged goods by proxy. You're not used, so something must be wrong with you.

NO, it's not right or fair. But there it is.

Stop looking, get your own self together, be happy with yourself, and she will stroll into your life without warning and it's a done deal. I know it sounds cliche. But when I was at my lowest point, and had really given up, Husband strolled (literally) into my life.

Make them chase you. Don't chase them. As soon as you chase, you're hooked and then you're fodder.