I don't think I have "fumbled" either. I think we girls have it a little easier than the guys. There is so much societal pressure all about how a man "performs" where, not much is expected of gals and their skills. Now, physical appearance is where we recieve the most pressure (no pun intended, there.) I can't wait to see what happens when we open that can o' worms.
That may all just be cliche diatribe, based on a disenchantment with American society, but I'll bet some people might agree with me.