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hot_pastrami · 05-25-2005, 03:13 PM

I used to live in an apartment below a very overweight couple who were fond of long shag sessions in the wee hours. Walls rattled. On one occasion, some plaster fell from my ceiling as I tried to sleep desite the distraction. I never did figure out out how to tactfully bring the subject up, even when he complained about my alarm clock being too loud in the mornings. So I bought a house, and haven't worried about neighbors since.

I think the slippers idea may be too slippery. Most people dislike being criticized, even moreso when the criticism is coupled with "and here is how I decided you are going to solve the problem." It's like an ultimatum. And a "quiet please" sign will only be effective if she realizes how much noise her shoes generate.

Personally, I would talk to her, and implicate some anonymous third-party so she doesn't feel like she's being accused. For instance, "Whoever decided to put a hardwood floor in an upstairs apartment was out of their mind! The hardwood makes the sound of your shoes hitting the floor resonate through my place when I'm trying to sleep." If the problem doesn't go away, you can be more direct with a note, or slippers, or what have you... then she'll have the previous conversation to know where you're coming from.

But, that's just me.

05-25-2005, 03:13 PM	#29
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	I used to live in an apartment below a very overweight couple who were fond of long shag sessions in the wee hours. Walls rattled. On one occasion, some plaster fell from my ceiling as I tried to sleep desite the distraction. I never did figure out out how to tactfully bring the subject up, even when he complained about my alarm clock being too loud in the mornings. So I bought a house, and haven't worried about neighbors since. I think the slippers idea may be too slippery. Most people dislike being criticized, even moreso when the criticism is coupled with "and here is how I decided you are going to solve the problem." It's like an ultimatum. And a "quiet please" sign will only be effective if she realizes how much noise her shoes generate. Personally, I would talk to her, and implicate some anonymous third-party so she doesn't feel like she's being accused. For instance, "Whoever decided to put a hardwood floor in an upstairs apartment was out of their mind! The hardwood makes the sound of your shoes hitting the floor resonate through my place when I'm trying to sleep." If the problem doesn't go away, you can be more direct with a note, or slippers, or what have you... then she'll have the previous conversation to know where you're coming from. But, that's just me. __________________ Hot Pastrami!