*whew*
I have read the whole thread and began my reply to MBJ, but I see her (?) remarks are many months old, so...I'll recast the thoughts a little differently.
HouseofV has two sons in it, and both have reasons to have special programs at school. One is deaf and the other has epilepsy. The
IEP is invaluable as a support tool. It does a couple of critically important things: It calls attention to your child's needs. It gives you
leverage to compel the school district to do what needs to be done, in a language that a bureaucracy understands.
This is really a testimonial to the value of an IEP. Get one, demand one and stick to it and make them stick to it.
I would also like to echo LR's comments. The parenting triumphs hinted at in this thread are humbling. They say that parenting is the last great refuge of amateurs. Amateurs, maybe. Virtuosos, definitely. *applauds*