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For me, it was more the case of "out with the old and in with the new" or out with the fake and in with the real. what mrnoodle said.

Not everything that I used to do before I was married is appropos after we were married. And that's hardly a trust thing, consider dating. Did then, don't now. Or living alone, did, now don't. There are 1001 ways my life before and after marriage are different. Most good, most voluntary, some are no biggie, some medium, some are real sacrifices.

As to why did I lie and what did I lie about...you're not channelling my therapist, are you? Those are good, solid, meaty questions. Substantial questions, questions worthy of another thread, another tapestry even. I sense you ask in a hypothetical way, to encourage me to think about it. Ok, I'll bite.

*thinks about lying...*

A major motivation for lying is shame. Another is fear. Distrust. Laziness. There are other motivations for lying that are superficially more noble. To simplify. To avoid pain for one/both parties. Wishful thinking. To win. I have all these motivations, and more, in fluctuating proportions. These are flaws of mine. Flaws present in many people, flaws that are recognizable to many I imagine.

As I continue to mature and grow in grace as I grow in age, I strive to strengthen myself where I am weak. This striving happens in bursts. Sometimes, I have the chance to indulge one or more of these weaknesses and tell a lie. Every time I don't lie, I make that area of my life a little better. But I have a lot of room for improvement.