[Trilby]

Originally Posted by BigV

For those of us lacking in sweetness and charm, inside info is even more critical. But I suffer from over-thinking disease as well. Would you mind answering another question on this topic?

What if she's actively working on losing weight? What's my motivation for saying such a thing? "You look too thin, eat, eat." or "You deserve a treat!" or what? Pretend I'm too dumb to understand. Actually, it wouldn't be pretending

I guess it's just my own misguided reward system (right now) and I am foisting it on other people-recklessly. If she is actively trying to lose weight, of course you don't do this. You say, "Honey, you are looking so freakin' fabulous, I'm proud you're taking good care of yourself! You look like you could use some gold jewelry." See? Easy. If she's allergic to gold, you go on to the next thing-diamonds/sapphires/emeralds/rubies/pearls. Easy.