speak softly and carry a big stick , I beleve the saying is , people listen when you speak softly and clearly and sysucingthly ( don't yell and don' tmince words , tell it like it IS , them shut up )
What I learned tonite , I have bee applying the 48 rules of power ( thanks Wolf ) for years ( most of them any way ) for YEARS !!!!
Here's a link ,
http://www2.tech.purdue.edu/cgt/cour...s_of_power.htm