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spavalica · 03-03-2006, 09:40 AM

I am not a spammer, just a person with a lot of problems trying to get as many suggestions from people that maybe went through this in their past.

But to keep you posted, yes the problems were solved after a visit to a marriage/relationship counselor, but unfortunately it was temporary.

We are still there...He keeps on telling me to ignore what his mother says, but I can not. Some things she said just hurt me so bad.

Like for instance, she makes coffee, and I say well let me help you and she says "Well You Better!", at that point I feel like saying well now that you've said that I purposly won't, but because I didnt want to make a seen there, I didnt say anything. And of course, my fiance claims that he didnt hear her say that. Isn't that the easiest thing to do? He never hears anything. And says if she says it in front of me and if I hear it I will tell her off, but she never says anything in front of me (and she probably will not).

I just started a new job 2 weeks ago. And I am waiting to settle down, at least for 3 months and then can move out.

My parent are even fully aware of this and told my fiance that whatever decision I make, they are okay with it. The accept me back home, but if I want to move out on my own (because I am financially able to) that I can. But they did tell him, whatever decision I make, then to stay out of my life. I wanted to break up a few times before, even when I was living at home, but he kept on calling and asking for forgivness, bla bla. So my mom knows that. Whenever, I get fed up with certain things and decide to move on, he comes back and begs.

He decided to go on vacation to Bosnia this year. I dont want to go, but he said he already promissed to his relatives and his grandma and will not cancel it. So, we made an agreement that we will only spend two weeks there w/ his family, one week in Croatia on the beach and one week in Belgrade (the two of us alone).

Still, I know that even those two weeks will just kill me!!! But, how do I convince him not to go there and for us to vacation by our selves somewhere else...How????

03-03-2006, 09:40 AM	#12
spavalica Recruit or Something Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 4	Sorry!!! I am not a spammer, just a person with a lot of problems trying to get as many suggestions from people that maybe went through this in their past. But to keep you posted, yes the problems were solved after a visit to a marriage/relationship counselor, but unfortunately it was temporary. We are still there...He keeps on telling me to ignore what his mother says, but I can not. Some things she said just hurt me so bad. Like for instance, she makes coffee, and I say well let me help you and she says "Well You Better!", at that point I feel like saying well now that you've said that I purposly won't, but because I didnt want to make a seen there, I didnt say anything. And of course, my fiance claims that he didnt hear her say that. Isn't that the easiest thing to do? He never hears anything. And says if she says it in front of me and if I hear it I will tell her off, but she never says anything in front of me (and she probably will not). I just started a new job 2 weeks ago. And I am waiting to settle down, at least for 3 months and then can move out. My parent are even fully aware of this and told my fiance that whatever decision I make, they are okay with it. The accept me back home, but if I want to move out on my own (because I am financially able to) that I can. But they did tell him, whatever decision I make, then to stay out of my life. I wanted to break up a few times before, even when I was living at home, but he kept on calling and asking for forgivness, bla bla. So my mom knows that. Whenever, I get fed up with certain things and decide to move on, he comes back and begs. He decided to go on vacation to Bosnia this year. I dont want to go, but he said he already promissed to his relatives and his grandma and will not cancel it. So, we made an agreement that we will only spend two weeks there w/ his family, one week in Croatia on the beach and one week in Belgrade (the two of us alone). Still, I know that even those two weeks will just kill me!!! But, how do I convince him not to go there and for us to vacation by our selves somewhere else...How????