[Elspode]

I don't know you well enough to know that you *have* gone wrong. From what you've told us here, you admit to having made some serious relationship and career mistakes, and you are now attempting to be self-sufficient and improve your lot in life through education and the making of better decisions.

That doesn't sound like a victim mentality to me. Or did I miss something?

You're a witch last time I checked, Bri. You know the relationship between magick and personal responsibility. Sounds to me like you're doing your best to put that into play and live by those precepts. Keep it up.