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Brett's Honey · 04-04-2006, 02:34 AM

Thanks for all of the input, I appreciate it. The thoughts of shoplifting consequences are bad enough, but the part of it that bothers me the most is the people that she stole from.
She stole from a very close friend that she's had for the past nine years. The girl's mother has been beyond wonderful to Ashley. The girls had been friends for about a year when Ashley's Mom was murdered. After she was left with a single dad, this girls' mother has always gone out of her way to do special things for Ashley, like taking her with them to get their hair cut and highlighted, shopping for a first bra, the girlie things that Dads aren't always that good at. And frequently buying her things. And she stole a ton of stuff from them!! And apparently its not the first time.
As far as the counseling, fortunately we have a great guy here at the YMCA. I have thought of talking to him, I met him when my son was 15 and he helped a lot.
She has what she needs, but not everything she wants, she's usually broke because she usually doesn't do her chores (and if we gave her any less chores, she wouldn't have any!)....
We obviously have to find out just what the real problem is, and at 14, I'm sure she's not going to just come out and tell us.

04-04-2006, 02:34 AM	#11
Brett's Honey whatever Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 308	Thanks for all of the input, I appreciate it. The thoughts of shoplifting consequences are bad enough, but the part of it that bothers me the most is the people that she stole from. She stole from a very close friend that she's had for the past nine years. The girl's mother has been beyond wonderful to Ashley. The girls had been friends for about a year when Ashley's Mom was murdered. After she was left with a single dad, this girls' mother has always gone out of her way to do special things for Ashley, like taking her with them to get their hair cut and highlighted, shopping for a first bra, the girlie things that Dads aren't always that good at. And frequently buying her things. And she stole a ton of stuff from them!! And apparently its not the first time. As far as the counseling, fortunately we have a great guy here at the YMCA. I have thought of talking to him, I met him when my son was 15 and he helped a lot. She has what she needs, but not everything she wants, she's usually broke because she usually doesn't do her chores (and if we gave her any less chores, she wouldn't have any!).... We obviously have to find out just what the real problem is, and at 14, I'm sure she's not going to just come out and tell us.