Club scene here is very good. We are quite central and if we tire of the local places, its not too far to travel for a change of scenery.
We have plenty of live music, the big bands only really go the Melbourne...which is only 2 hours away...so not too bad.
I love Sydney!! Its a place that people either love or hate.
Your wife should know The Murray River, I am only 15 minutes away from that...its the border for Victoria and New South Wales.
I say you have to try things at least twice...once is never sufficient to make a judgement