Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

My life is better for finding the Cellar...!

After a rather messy night out with a male friend last night, he sent me a couple of texts with various comments about being a better friend and helping me get my life back on track.

My immediate reaction (because of certain things not worth explaining here) was to read far too much into it. I wanted to reply saying, "Right so what you're saying...." or "What you really mean is..." I also focussed totally on how the text made me feel and blamed him for this.

Luckily I decided to sleep on it before replying, and in the morning remembered this thread. I read the texts again exactly as they were written, taking them at face value. What he wrote wasn't offensive or insulting. He was advising me as a friend because he cares.

I avoided a completely pointless row and a couple of days wasted in sulking.