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Androgyny refers to two concepts. The first is the mixing of masculine and feminine characteristics, be it the example of the loud fashion statements of musicians like Ziggy Stardust or the balance of "anima" and "animus" in Jungian psychoanalytic theory. The second is in describing something that is neither masculine nor feminine, for example the Hijras of India who are often described as "neither man nor woman".
Androgynous traits are those that either have no gender value, or have some aspects generally attributed to the opposite gender. Physiological androgyny (compare intersex), which deals with physical traits, is distinct from behavioral androgyny which deals with personal and social anomalies in gender, and from psychological androgyny, which is a matter of gender identity. A psychologically androgynous person is commonly known as an androgyne, although there is a politicized version known as genderqueer.
To say that a culture or relationship is androgynous is to say that it lacks rigid gender roles and that the people involved display characteristics or partake in activities traditionally associated with the other gender. The term androgynous is often used to refer to a person whose look or build make determining their gender difficult but is generally not used as a synonym for actual intersexuality or transgender or two-spirit status of people.
Homosexual women who don't belong to either femme or butch type, and take a more neutral approach are known as Chapstick lesbians.
The word androgynous is derived from the Greek words andros (meaning man) and gynos (meaning woman).
Some famous people known for their androgynous appearances include Antony Hegarty, Brett Anderson, Gladys Bentley, Marc Bolan, Leigh Bowery, David Bowie, Pete Burns, Jaye Davidson, Marlene Dietrich, Mylène Farmer, Gackt, Boy George, Davey Havok, Norman Iceberg, Michael Jackson, Grace Jones, k.d.lang, Annie Lennox, Mana, Marilyn Manson, Shirley Manson, Kristen McMenamy, Katherine Moennig, Brian Molko, Gary Numan, Steve Strange, Rozz Williams, Carole Pope, Phranc, Susan Powter, Prince, Tilda Swinton and Patrick Wolf.
In fiction (particularly manga and anime), androgynous characters are growing in popularity. Examples include Envy from Full Metal Alchemist, Haku from Naruto, Rupi from Bleach, and Sailor Uranus from Sailor Moon.
Also known as cyndal.
Elves in fantasy-fiction are portrayed as androgynous.
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I don't think you want to look "genderless" or "gender neutral" but you want to attract everyone. Yes, David Bowie and Boy George have it nailed IMHO.