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Originally Posted by yesman065
Let her go and feel her way through this thing - be nice, but NOT too nice! She knows you are there if she needs you - don't keep asking or offering - just let her be.
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I must agree. If you make it too easy...why should she even try? Any relationship begun in this manner will be unbalanced and most likely doomed to failure. Half way, then let her come the rest. If she doesn't, then you haven't committed everything, have you?
...but it sounds to me like you already have, in your mind. Get over the "she owes me a hug or at least a thank you", I don't think she owes you
anything since you willingly offered yourself up as a doormat. Get out of doormat-mode and make her stand on her own two feet. If she's standing on yours, she won't respect them, she'll just wipe the mud off of her own feet onto yours.
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