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Originally Posted by bbro
~snip~ One that says he wants to get out of this and start over. I think that is one of the reasons he wants to come down here with me so bad.
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I don't know of anyone in jail (or in trouble) that doesn't want to get out of it and many think, with just one more chance, they can start over. The problem is that wanting it and doing the work required to make the changes are two very different things.
If he merely 'wants' to change, it won't be enough. He has to examine the
reasons he is addicted with brutal honesty. It will be painful. Then he has to rewrite the scripts that end in getting drunk/high with ones that end in alternative activities. This is the reason groups like AAA work for many people. People who get high often have low self-esteem and unacknowledged demons which drive them to hide in a drug or alcohol induced stupor.
And most of all, he'll have to do it on his own. You can't do it for him, or push him through it, or make him
want to not drink.
Oh, and he can't run from it. Moving away won't solve the problem. The reasons for his addictions are inside him and no matter where he goes, they will
still be there.
Stormie