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yesman065 · 09-05-2006, 10:39 AM

After having been a drug user for many years and being married to an alcoholic for 18 (now separated) I have come to believe that I am "one of the lucky few" who can turn it on or off at will. Pot, coke, shrooms, meth and so on. I would do as I pleased when I pleased and then stop at the drop of a hat. This made it unbelievably difficult to comprehend that she couldn't do the same.
Off we went to counselor after counselor (lost track after 6 or 7) then AA meetings both she separately and many many together. At this point I feel very little empathy or sympathy for those who are still using or "trying" to stop. Until it is over and an entirely new pattern of behavior is established, they are still using or going to soon. My life and the lives of my children were ripped apart and destroyed by her and her fuckin drinking and drugging. NO sympathy here for any user - period. Get clean and I might try to cut you some slack. If I had it my way, AA and every other "how do you feel?" group would be eliminated and the money given to the victims of these people. Put their kids in school and get the children some counseling - screw the addict - it their problem and I believe they CHOSE it.
As far as your boyfriend and the "look in his eyes" That look is called desperation! He will say and do ANYTHING to get out of where he is and will screw, steal from, cheat and lie to anyone he can to do it. **Hint hint - his mom probably already knows this and that is the reason for her behavior.** I'm sorry to come down so hard on you, but I lived the life you are headed for firsthand and it TOTALLY SUCKS.
I am what Bri would call a savior - I tried to do everything and anything to help her out of her troubles and realized way too late that it was not only her life she was ruining, but also mine and her kids. I came riding in on my white horse trying to save the "poor damsel in distress" What a joke she just wanted someone to clean up every mess she created and support her habit. I have heard this story a hundred times and didn't realize I was living it til I got out and over my own addiction which I finally realized was. . .HER. My unsolicited advice - run, Bbro run like the freakin wind and never look back!

09-05-2006, 10:39 AM	#86
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	After having been a drug user for many years and being married to an alcoholic for 18 (now separated) I have come to believe that I am "one of the lucky few" who can turn it on or off at will. Pot, coke, shrooms, meth and so on. I would do as I pleased when I pleased and then stop at the drop of a hat. This made it unbelievably difficult to comprehend that she couldn't do the same. Off we went to counselor after counselor (lost track after 6 or 7) then AA meetings both she separately and many many together. At this point I feel very little empathy or sympathy for those who are still using or "trying" to stop. Until it is over and an entirely new pattern of behavior is established, they are still using or going to soon. My life and the lives of my children were ripped apart and destroyed by her and her fuckin drinking and drugging. NO sympathy here for any user - period. Get clean and I might try to cut you some slack. If I had it my way, AA and every other "how do you feel?" group would be eliminated and the money given to the victims of these people. Put their kids in school and get the children some counseling - screw the addict - it their problem and I believe they CHOSE it. As far as your boyfriend and the "look in his eyes" That look is called desperation! He will say and do ANYTHING to get out of where he is and will screw, steal from, cheat and lie to anyone he can to do it. Hint hint - his mom probably already knows this and that is the reason for her behavior. I'm sorry to come down so hard on you, but I lived the life you are headed for firsthand and it TOTALLY SUCKS. I am what Bri would call a savior - I tried to do everything and anything to help her out of her troubles and realized way too late that it was not only her life she was ruining, but also mine and her kids. I came riding in on my white horse trying to save the "poor damsel in distress" What a joke she just wanted someone to clean up every mess she created and support her habit. I have heard this story a hundred times and didn't realize I was living it til I got out and over my own addiction which I finally realized was. . .HER. My unsolicited advice - run, Bbro run like the freakin wind and never look back!