'Spode, I think if either of you
werent the least bit concerned or jealous, I would be worried.
I would think what you are both feeling/thinking is perfectly natural for an involved couple going down this path. Its human nature to be jealous (are we the only species that feels jealousy?) and if either of you werent concerned about the consequences in the least...I would be concerned that these little trists (I dont know what to call them) werent actually what you are describing.
I've been to swingers parties (non participating - its a long story) and from what I gather, everyone there who is actually
in a devoted and loving, healthy relationship...all go through the emotions you and your wife are feeling.
I believe its healthy to feel what you are feeling, insecurity and jealousy, in healthy doses are great things.....the possessive insane insecurity.....really unhealthy.
I have no great insight, but I seriously love your openness and honesty on here
