Originally Posted by Stormieweather
The length of time they remain in control of the outcome of 'ties' varies between relationships, but if their partner is never allowed to be the powerful one, the partner will eventually become resentful and defiant, so the relationship breaks down
I was married for 23 years and never truly had any power. My objections or attempts at negotiation were met with discussion (more like lecture) until I saw his POV and agreed with him. Believe me, there was no winning. It was only a matter of time before I would agree just to get him to shut up. There was no agreement really, only a sigh and capitulation.
So one day I decided I was done, moved out the next day. Never felt a moment of regret. He was such a drain in my spirit.