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Originally Posted by DanaC
Why, when I had a relationship was I fighting off offers?
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My Hubby and I discussed this some time ago...
I drive a Corvette and get a lot of attention because of the car, not because I am pretty. I think I look okay, but I don't go out of my way to 'pretty-up' at all when in public; eyeliner, mascara and clothes that fit. Full makeup is reserved for xmas parties w/ hubby's work.
I will talk to anyone about Corvettes, that wants to talk to me. I manage to surprise many men with my knowledge about Corvettes in general, the third generation 'vette in particular AND I have a fabulous working knowledge of engine and accessory parts and their uses and problems encountered with them.
I have been propositioned (respectfully) several times. I invite them all to visit the Corvette site I moderate at and refuse any/all personal advances.
I also tell my Hubby about these encounters.
Here is what he said:
The men are attracted to my confidence within myself.
Here is what I replied:
My confidence is derived from the stability I feel within our marriage.
Same thing for you...in a relationship I think women put off a 'vibe' of self-confidence that attracts men.
I must clarify that all through growing up, I was a nerdy-bookworm...happiest with my books and riding my horse. I grew up 15 miles out of town and had no close friends. I feel my social skills were retarded in development and I was painfully shy. Had a bad long-term relationship out of HS/college who did nothing for my self confidence other than beat it down. It wasn't until meeting/marrying Hubby that I feel I blossomed into the self-confident person I am today. I will talk to anyone, anywhere and about anything.