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Old 12-09-2006, 10:27 AM   #229
MaggieL
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Originally Posted by Undertoad
That is actually good to hear. I always felt like she lost some of her personality through the transition. Like Scott would push back, but Lisa wouldn't. I liked that push back sometimes.
Oh, Lisa's still the same person, no question about it. I think it's natural to lose some assertiveness during transition--especially male to female--because that power is being consumed elsewhere. But then begins the process of integrating core motivations with a new set of social expectations and norms. The strategy is largely unchanged, but often the tactics are different. Learning the new tactics isn't instantaneous.

One of the cruelest things that happens to a transitioning transsexual is the important people in your life who find it easier to cope with your transition by behaving as if the person they knew is now dead; taken over zombie fashion by some other entity. In the cases I know, t'aint so.
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