[lumberjim]

this whole thing assumes that the photographer has been dealt with, i presume?

It comes down to logic. i can't destroy or keep it? if it is bad enough to make me want to relocate, it has to be pretty freakin bad, cuz, i'm not all that shy. i'd trust jinx. mainly because she'd have to move too, and i know her tendency toward being mortified is much more sensitive than mine..... beyond that, why take the risk? I mean, i suppose i could trust my immediate family, and probably my sister in law......but.....if it was that bad, i wouldn't want them knowing either. if it were possible, i'd say zero......I'd rather harbor my own demons, thanks.

This is about how close we let our friends get, i suppose. That's the real question. I've had it illustrated too often that you should be nice to your enemies, because your friends might just turn out to be assholes. Keep your own secrets....you're much less likely to betray yourself.