[Shawnee123]

So many books I've read lately where the characters are either sick, or know someone who is sick, or lost a loved one. The recurring theme is "why does everyone say (insert things you say when you don't know what to say)?" So many of us don't know what to say, and are afraid to sound like we're trivializing by saying something unhelpful. Like Beestie says, your friend needs you to be yourself. But I think this is a good time to ask those of you who have been through such things: what do you say? How can you best help the person and their friends and families?

God bless your friend, be-bop, and those of you who love and care for him.