[Beestie]

A) The ballroom teacher has an issue with you yet he addresses your husband in putting you down.

B) Your S-I-L addresses her contempt for you to your brother who is complicit.

C) Your husband's friend gently ignore's you by answering your question to your husband.

I'm not a psychologist or anything but I think the similarities in the three incidents (you chose them out of all the one's that have happened to you) are interesting.

I don't really know how to interpret them but I think you need to send a message to your husband and brother TODAY that you are no longer going to take ANY shit from their friends, wives, teachers or THEY are going to have HELL to pay. Its a bluff but my gut reaction is that you allow yourself to feel hurt by others *via* the men you care about (hubby and bro) and somehow you have been encouraging this behaviour (subconsciously, to be sure).

I will venture a guess that when these things happen, you feel closer to your husband/bro even tho they do not come to your defense (which I also think is a problem although you did not state it).