[Aliantha]

For me it is a double standard. Either you care for someone or you don't. It's pretty black and white. Not too many shades of grey for me.

The way I see it is if you care about someone then you understand their motivations and reasons and if you know they're not doing so great and that they've clearly stated that they feel the place they're at ( in this case it's here ) is the only place they feel they can talk about the pain they're in, then why can't the regulars at least take that into account instead of making arses out of themselves by beating up on someone who is obviously not in the right frame of mind a lot of the time?

It's called compassion. You either have it for someone or you don't.