Yesman-I was talking to the person that said "Complete Cultures of Women". I know what he meant...I don't need it explained. I think he just needed a reminder of how things got to be that way.
And what
Dana is saying is the reason I am never going to have children with my husband. God love 'im. The second he talked to me that way in front of my kid.......well, it just wouldn't work out lets say....
But we didn't marry with kids in mind anyway. I don't mind not having one at all. I chose my husband....for good and bad. But lets face it...the great man that he is....he's just not cut out for it and
he's not any less of a person for that. We just have a real view of our limitations. I would be too protective and could see myself pouncing on him like an enraged tiger. Not good. And he would try to constantly act as if I was stupid and his word was golden.....and he mentioned the other night in our conversation about it that his controlling behaviors would just get worse. And I believe him. Nothing wrong with not being cut out for being a parent. We may be cut out for fine genetic reproductions...but not parents. We are being realisitic. We think we would have a fine kid...it's just sad that we both have personality issues resulting from our family environments that would screw up everything and quickly. I think we are better people for not trusting each other to do this and not do it with each other. Maybe I could do it if I married someone who didn't act like twat sometimes...but I didn't. I don't even want one that bad..If I did we would be getting a divorce. But I chose that peckerhead first.
The ideal situation would be for us both to change and have a kid.....but lets see the reality of that actually happening?
There are real reasons some women don't want a guy around and some guys if they are honest, like my husband can say, "hey I am awesome", but I might be a terrible father......but most women never got the choice.