Well someone's got to keep it together...and it can't be me!
After 13+ years together this is the humorous stress battle cry used by my spouse and I, we try to tag team on the support vs. freak time, try to keep a sense of humor about it, defuse. You're right. Its not a stress-off competition and the size and weight of all of it is constantly shifting for all parties. (Just because her parents are cool with it, I'd bet the potential for mother-in-law trouble is a heavier weight on her- being the evil cause and all.)
A great stress passed in our household yesterday with the final reception of a renewed green card for hubby- It was mysteriously overdue, we were just about to lawyer-up - but there it was in the mail.So they arent kicking him/us out afterall.(The new card is all high tech with all sorts of holograms, codes, readable stuff on it. He's sposed to keep it in a special envelope. It probably can relay a tracking signal from his wallet.)