[lookout123]

true. but the popular crowd is typically full of clones who are fearful of losing their spot in the crowd. trust me, the popular ones are walking through life terrified of being pushed out right now. the ones who have fewer friends, generally have more "real" friends, but more importantly many "acquaintances". remember, you aren't looking for a wife (or husband), you are looking for human interaction. i think i really hear you saying you are looking for a place where you feel like you belong.

because the clones are afraid of making a tragic misstep and losing cool points and being pushed to the back of the pack most of them won't take a chance on the unknown (you). the other group may not be as popular but they'll take a chance on people. be a friend. if you decide you really don't like that person, walk away. if they are likeable, stick around - you will meet other people just by being a friend to a person who is in a different orbit than yourself. some you'll like, some you won't. be a friend to those you like. be courteous to those you don't.

any of the popular clones that have even the slightest grasp of their own identity will have a friend or two that doesn't fit with the clones. you'll meet the popular kids just by being around the people you actually like and who are willing to give you a chance.

one of three things will happen: 1) you will make some very good friends in the "out" crowd and enjoy life, 2) you'll start their but move into the popular crowd and enjoy life, 3) you'll be given the opportunity to see the inner dynamic of the popular crowd and realize you don't like it, so you'll focus more on your "out" crowd... making you even more desireable to the clones and you will enjoy life.

it doesn't matter. all three end with the same thing - you enjoy interaction with other people.