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Old 11-28-2007, 07:32 PM   #78
Stormieweather
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Originally Posted by rkzenrage View Post
Sometimes, sometimes I just want interesting, scholarly, thoughtful banter, selfishly perhaps, but true.
If they are not thinking but I am, at that point, is fine with me.
Either way, it was choice on their part and I have made them think nothing. If someone changes their view on something it is because they have chosen to adopt a new POV. No one can force you to think something through casual conversation.
No, but actively listening instead of merely looking for points to refute in the other person's stance or arguing from the standpoint of convincing your opponent of your rightness might give you some new insights into or angles to the issue that hadn't occurred to you previously.

True listening is an art form. Arguing for the joy of debate is a different skill.
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