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Old 05-19-2008, 11:46 AM   #29
Clodfobble
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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic
Do you guys enjoy hearing all of this college drama? Is real life (real life I mean pay bills, 35-50, rear kids, take care of aging parents) drama comparable to college/high school drama? I think there's a big difference between high school and college.
It's an interesting blast-from-the-past, for one thing. We all went through it, and it's good to remember what it used to be like. Also, you do a pretty good job of taking advice when you ask for it, so people like getting to impart their wisdom.

The drama does decrease for most people, but a lot of it just becomes different drama with more serious consequences. Instead of an ex-girlfriend who starts dating someone else, it's an ex-wife who gets re-married and tells the kids to call him "dad," or a coworker who gets you reprimanded for something they fucked up, or a mother-in-law who won't shut up about how you're raising the kids all wrong... But like Sundae said, one of the big differences is how you react to these things. You just get too tired to care as much. It's not drama if you shrug it off.

And yeah, about your current situation: you're way overreacting. She didn't cheat on you, and she's not under some obligation to "mourn" you for some period of time. Try to keep in mind that they're not pretending to like each other just to piss you off--it's not about you. It's perfectly fair for you to have your feelings hurt, many people would, but you don't get to expect things from either of them, and calling them names only makes you look bad.

Go on a date with someone new. You'll feel much better.
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