[OnyxCougar]

I'm the kind of person who believes that beauty isn't something that can be put on, that it's something that comes from within. Yeah, each person has a different natural beauty, and honestly, some people are just ugly no matter what they do, but it seems to me that attractiveness often has a very high correlation to attitude.

The saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", it's just so true, I guess.

I find that most men consider physical features first before getting to know the person. I have a friend that, by all accounts, is HOT. She's got a great body, a beautiful face, dresses well (classy, not trashy), and keeps herself fit.

In contrast, I'm about 50 pounds over weight, wear jeans most the time, and don't consider myself terribly pretty.

When we go out, all the guys ask her to dance, buy her drinks, and generally ignore me in favor of her. No lie. I do not exist as far as they are concerned. She is a complete bitch to them. She makes disparaging remarks, looks at them with distain, and is really cold and standoffish. She is a fairly ugly person on the inside. They usually wander away within 15 minutes.

Men don't approach me. I have to believe it's because I'm not what most men generally consider "hot", so they don't care to talk to me.

That's ok with me, though. If they are so superficial to care only for my appearance, I don't really want to talk to them anyway.