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SquidGirl · 10-29-2008, 11:48 PM

Isn't Oprah a supporter of how its up to yourself to stay positive and think good thoughts...only you control your destiny/day type of thing? So, shouldn't the man be responsible for making himself feel like they are a winner then, too? I kindof don't get it.

Cheers-Aliantha!

I think by BEING supportive you are making him feel like a winner. My BF is super into mountain biking. When we met he was riding 7+ hours a day. I have been the only girl in his life that not only supports his obsession but pushes him towards it. I supported him in buying a $3,500 bike this summer as he wanted to 'settle' and get something inferior that he could deal with and just be content. The support and encouragement made him the happiest man...like he was a winner. I didn't have to "make" him feel like he was a winner, I just supported him. Yes, I think he still cheats on me with his bike...but that's an infidelity I can handle.

10-29-2008, 11:48 PM	#4
SquidGirl Colloquialist Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Cavern in Mount Pleasant, MI Posts: 79	Isn't Oprah a supporter of how its up to yourself to stay positive and think good thoughts...only you control your destiny/day type of thing? So, shouldn't the man be responsible for making himself feel like they are a winner then, too? I kindof don't get it. Cheers-Aliantha! I think by BEING supportive you are making him feel like a winner. My BF is super into mountain biking. When we met he was riding 7+ hours a day. I have been the only girl in his life that not only supports his obsession but pushes him towards it. I supported him in buying a $3,500 bike this summer as he wanted to 'settle' and get something inferior that he could deal with and just be content. The support and encouragement made him the happiest man...like he was a winner. I didn't have to "make" him feel like he was a winner, I just supported him. Yes, I think he still cheats on me with his bike...but that's an infidelity I can handle.