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Originally Posted by Bullitt
If my buddy's wife is slutting around, he needs to know. (Monogamous) Relationships are established on mutual trust and when one side betrays that trust, it undermines the integrity of the relationship. There is no excuse for infidelity or attempts thereof. I tell him and leave it up to him to decide what he should do about it. End of story.
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But what if it's not just a girlfriend, it's a spouse, and there are kids involved? For example, if this happened to me (which it totally wouldn't because I'm
completely not my best friend's husband's type, but let's say it did...) My best friend is a stay-at-home mother of four children, all under the age of 7. If her marriage dissolved she would be in a world of fucking hurt. Yet at the same time, I know that she probably wouldn't be able to stay in the marriage if she knew her husband was actively trying to cheat on her. In all honesty, if he was just looking for some strange and had every intention of staying in the marriage, she might genuinely prefer to remain ignorant. I would have a very serious, threatening conversation with the husband who hit on me, and determine what his underlying motivations were. If it looked like the marriage were doomed anyway, I'd tell her. But if it seemed to me that he realized what a dumbass he was being, and understood that it would never happen again or I would tell her, then I'd write it off as not worth the agony.