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Originally Posted by TheMercenary
Why should parents support the life style of another adult that they don't support? Because they are your spawn? I think not. What overbearing parents? A bit of an assumption on your part don't you think?
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Actually yes and yes and yes. They do owe it to the child to give them the support they need in order to succeed (finacial, emotional, everything) even if they don't agree with the child's personal life-style. The parent chose to have the child, their responsibility to the child doesn't end, ever. Even if its a druggie whore, they have the responsibility to try and help them, pay for rehab ect.
To me, you're comments make you sound like its all about "ME" from the parents side. I'm sorry but the parent
chose the relationship, the child
did not.
This isn't just for the adult-child's benefit, a good relationship with your child should be important, and instead of ostracizing them
A: you have more chance of influencing them to make good decisions
B: you get the benefit of a loving respectful relationship
C: if they're successful, they'll pass along the good fortune because you were a part of them gaining that success.
BTW: no when I hurt my parents' feelings it does bother me. I try to minimize damage, which means I hide alot. BUT I'm not going to marry the person they want me to (at 18 nonetheless!), and I'm not going to go to church. Those are my choices to make, not theirs, and although doing so would make them happy, it would make me very very extremely unhappy. Even though I tell them this (and its proven, I've done it "their way" in the past, I got suicidal) they deny that thats possible. So I love my parents, I know they want the best for me, but they don't know what is best for me. I'm not saying that I know either, but I'm a lot more aware than they are.