[Sundae]

Tink, we really only want the best for V.

Specifically, the love we see he has for his kids, and the bum deal that many fathers get from the courts. Men go from living with their offspring, seeing them every single day of their lives; to having them for rationed portions of time - weekends, maybe occasional evenings, the odd holiday. Their financial contribution is the same (as it should be) but their parenting input depends solely on the goodwill of the mother. And the need for their financial input ensures that they cannot have the same flexibility a mother may have when it comes to meeting childcare needs.

I am not suggesting for one minute that this is something that will happen berween you and V. Or that if it did happen it would be intentional. It's just another reason we might worry about V more than you. That and the fact he's a long term poster.

I hope you can both sort things amicably.