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What I'm saying is, let your brother's relationship with your mom be what it is, and his relationship with you be its own thing. Don't let one affect the other, if you don't want to.
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Worth repeating *smiles*
Hope it goes well Tiki. Keep us posted. Speaking as a sister, having a brother in your life rocks :P
My outer family had a similar kind of experience recently. A few years ago a long lost brother contacted my relative (my dad's cousin, I don't really know her that well. Only met her at dad's funeral, but knew of through family grapevine). When the family still lived in India, the boy, then 14 years old, was kicked out by his mum (my great-aunt). A couple of years later, the boy having left and not been seen since, the family left India.
Several decades later, my (2nd) cousin, whom I recently met at dad's funeral, discovered she had a brother (she'd been born after they left India) by chance, overhearing a conversation between her older sisters. When she asked her mum about him, she was told to forget about him, because he's "a bad lot". Poor bloody kid. A bad lot at 14?
Anyway. 50 years after he'd been kicked out of the family home in india, he found his sister. He'd been in England for many years by then. With his own family. He and his sister are still in contact.