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I mean to say that as I read the thread, I came across xoB's post and I applauded it. Later, I read mercy's post, and I applaud that one too. Both men express the same idea, that the highest duty a parent owes his children is to prepare them well to live independently, a belief I share. Because I had posted my enthusiastic agreement to xoB's post before I'd read mercy's post, I felt it, too, deserved to be acknowledged.

It is most important to raise them well, happiness is *relatively* incidental.