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Originally Posted by jinx
Sean, is there any chance you would describe for us your first sexual encounter? Ie. were you molested?
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No I was never molested, altho you might be interested in some other comments I've made to Cloud and DanaC. I mentioned a medical condition, which included a mild form of intersex involving genital surgery, and also an endocrine disturbance that was treated with drugs. These kinds of experience often impact on adult sexuality, and I am currently researching in that area. I think there is probably a lot more counseling available for children like me these days.
Besides this, I had some difficult experiences in my childhood, which I've already mentioned. Some violence and some other kinds of abuse, and also some paradoxes. For one, altho I wasn't sexually precocious (quite the opposite, I had a very late puberty) I really loved girls when I was a young boy, and I also had a lot of opportunities for sex play. This was always consensual and enjoyable, and in many ways my sex life up until age ten was as good as it's ever been.
I don't subscribe to the abused/abuser theory, but I'm open to the possibility that my childhood has influenced the way I feel now. I'm resistant to simplistic pathologizing tho.