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Aliantha · 10-14-2009, 03:13 AM

I get where you're coming from Juni. My younger boy who is 12 I'm almost certain wouldn't do that. He's right into sport and fitness and doesn't have time for doing stupid stuff like dope and like your daughter, he's really not interested in the opposite sex either. I'm thankful for that right now. Aden is far too interested in girls and other things that're likely to get him into trouble.

I think he's going to try really hard not to be following the other kids from now on though. Quite a few of them have stopped by since he's been grounded and so we've all had an opportunity to talk the situation over. Some of them are suggesting that they're going to not do it anymore either and so we've put the offer out for them to hang out here any time they like if the others would rather get stoned. I figure if I can encourage a few of them to kick the habit and support each other in their efforts then they might be able to deal with the peer pressure a bit better.

Who knows though. Maybe I'm fooling myself. I hope not though, and I can't afford to think like that. I have to be positive about it and work on getting the relationship between Aden and us (his family) back on the rails because it has suffered over the last bit of a while and we take some of the responsibility for that on ourselves. I think maybe we expected too much from him (and his brother), but hindsight is always 20/20 vision.

eta: The kids all keep asking me how i knew and I suggested to them that I'd been around the block a thousand times more than they had so far. You can't kid a kidder kind of thing I guess. It's just a case of BTDT as you said Juni. My parents like yours were clueless. Specially my Mum. THe whole drug scene hasn't really changed much since I was younger though, so it's pretty easy to keep up.

Back to the drawing board with the whole drug education stuff though. Here was me living in a dreamland thinking I'd got my kids covered and loe and behold, I was delusional. Such is life though. Even parents don't always get it right the first time.

10-14-2009, 03:13 AM	#28
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I get where you're coming from Juni. My younger boy who is 12 I'm almost certain wouldn't do that. He's right into sport and fitness and doesn't have time for doing stupid stuff like dope and like your daughter, he's really not interested in the opposite sex either. I'm thankful for that right now. Aden is far too interested in girls and other things that're likely to get him into trouble. I think he's going to try really hard not to be following the other kids from now on though. Quite a few of them have stopped by since he's been grounded and so we've all had an opportunity to talk the situation over. Some of them are suggesting that they're going to not do it anymore either and so we've put the offer out for them to hang out here any time they like if the others would rather get stoned. I figure if I can encourage a few of them to kick the habit and support each other in their efforts then they might be able to deal with the peer pressure a bit better. Who knows though. Maybe I'm fooling myself. I hope not though, and I can't afford to think like that. I have to be positive about it and work on getting the relationship between Aden and us (his family) back on the rails because it has suffered over the last bit of a while and we take some of the responsibility for that on ourselves. I think maybe we expected too much from him (and his brother), but hindsight is always 20/20 vision. eta: The kids all keep asking me how i knew and I suggested to them that I'd been around the block a thousand times more than they had so far. You can't kid a kidder kind of thing I guess. It's just a case of BTDT as you said Juni. My parents like yours were clueless. Specially my Mum. THe whole drug scene hasn't really changed much since I was younger though, so it's pretty easy to keep up. Back to the drawing board with the whole drug education stuff though. Here was me living in a dreamland thinking I'd got my kids covered and loe and behold, I was delusional. Such is life though. Even parents don't always get it right the first time. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber