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Originally Posted by monster
Well then, that's something to work on. that's 35 years ago ffs.
Oh and to answer your question. When they tell you they need it which will be when they're thinking about becoming sexualy active because you've created safe and open environment in which they feel they can discuss these things with you without fear of punishment, disapproval or whatever.....
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Weeeell....doesn't always work like that. I was raised very much without a 'punishment model'. Sex wasn't a matter for disapproval either. The closest I came to that was Dad asking me if I intended to 'go out wearing that?' when i had on something outrageous: my answer 'yes' was fine and no more was said.
I never talked about sex with mum. She'd try from time to time, but I found it excruciatingly embarrassing. There is no way I'd have told my mum I was about to be sexually active. I kept it entirely secret. It was only when my first 'relationship' crashed and burned that she realised I was sleeping with the lad.
Teens can develop a bunch of embarrassment and secrecy no matter how understanding and open the parenting is.