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I am sure your counsoller (SP) will have some great ideas to help you out with this, But I have one that might help in the short term. Even before your "time apart" is finished, perhaps think of putting Jinx in charge of all finances. Sit down together and figure out all bills, spending money, savings, etc... Then give yourself an allowance. With your allowance, break that down even farther. How much is going to: booze, smokes( if you smoke), fast food, clothes, toys etc...
Use envelopes if needed, once the money in each envelope is gone, don't cheat and use another. Not having the money to spend will make you not have to lie, because you won't be able to slip.
This worked for my hubby and I, he had no concept of budgeting, and we were fighting all the time. Now I handle all finaces, and EACH of us get an allowance to spend however we want. The bills are getting paid, and our debt each year is going down. The best part is, we don't fight over missing a bill and who was suppose to pay it, or anything like that. Putting hubby on a budget helped him take more ownership with his money, and he was less likely to spend it all as fast. We have a pre-paid credit card with a bit on it, for emergancies, for things he can not wait for me about. Even after 17 years, he does have access to our joint account, but asks before using those funds, in case they are for a bill or something.
Perhaps something like this might help you guys?
I wish you both all the best, good luck with the road ahead, just remember curves, bumps and pit falls are part of the journey. If you can travel it together it won't feel so rocky.
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