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The thing that sucks is that he's probably got some other stupid motivation, for instance he might be cutting you down as a way to feel better about himself.
He may be incredibly jealous of you, in some way, and have no other tool for dealing with it.
He may have gotten a similar talk when he was a kid and thought that he became a better person at the end of it... because it answered something in himself that you certainly don't need.
Being a dad doesn't mean you get resolved of all your stupid incorrect ways of dealing with people or believing/not believing in yourself.
My s2b-ex's dad would call her a snob, all the time, because she had done what parents are supposed to be proud of, going to better schooling than he ever did, getting a better job than he ever did, making more money than he ever did. In reality he was still proud of her... but not so proud of himself. In her success, she made him feel worse about himself. She would come home for visits and he didn't know what questions to ask her and she would make him feel stupid. So he would lash out a little.
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