Thank you Sam.
Now you know why everyone pushes you to get married when you're young, both male and female. They're afraid you'll discover single, while not perfect, isn't all that bad.
Married and single both have benefits and drawbacks. When you have a mate, what you expect/want/need from them may be totally alien to their thinking. There's no standard by which you can say, if I marry I must do this and that, but not that and the other. Makes for a tough vetting.
As for the men writing the beach walks and fire snuggling being clueless, you bet your bippy... we all are. Oh some are a little more adept at picking up what you want to hear, but what you really want, not a fucking clue.